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Is Sincerity Enough?

Mon, 13 Jul 2009 06:57 EST

We admire principled people. Or at least, we think we do. If we think about it, the people we really admire are those who have the principles that we believe to be true, or beneficial, or at least relatively harmless.

After all, Stalin had principles. Hitler had principles. The Taleban have principles. The problem is not so much a lack of principles, as adherence to the wrong principles. One of the more daft suggestions heard in our age of soft heads and hard hearts is that as long as we are “sincere”, we are probably OK. But regarding sincerity as a stand-alone virtue in and of itself is highly dangerous.

You can be sincerely wrong. I may sincerely believe that I have a duty to kill every left-handed person I meet. That may be one of my “core principles”. Does that mean that everyone is duty bound to accommodate me, and not object to my principles for fear of hurting my feelings? Not at all: on the contrary, it is vitally important that someone corrects me. It is no use to nod sympathetically and congratulate me on my sincerity.

One of the most common avenues of attack on LIFE and our work is the implication that we are not really genuine or honest in the arguments we put forward. It is suggested that there is some kind of ulterior motive behind opposition to abortion. The various sins of which we are accused generally include hatred of women, religious fanaticism, dislike of sex, as well as scientific and philosophical ignorance (to name but a few).

It does not seem to enter the critics’ heads that a perfectly reasonable, sane person, in full possession of the facts and after long and thoughtful consideration, might come to the conclusion that abortion is wrong. Not because of their religious beliefs, or because they think sex is bad, or because they want to punish women, but because they genuinely believe that abortion is not a right or just act. In other words, people’s pro-life views are sincerely held.

Now, as we have been discussing, that is by no means a guarantee that we are right. However, it does demand that someone who wishes to persuade us that we are wrong, or to criticise our position, go about this endeavour in the right way. There is an old convention about debating that we ought to engage with our opponent’s strongest arguments, rather than his weakest (any fool can demolish a weak argument).

Generally, people hold beliefs for specific reasons. If we want to change their mind, then we have to address those reasons. If A believes that abortion is wrong because the unborn child is fully human, then no amount of talk from B about women’s control over their bodies is going to change their mind, because for A, this feminist angle is just not relevant information. B might, on the other hand, get somewhere by suggesting to A that the unborn child is not fully human.

You might think that this is pretty simple stuff. But it is still very unusual to read pro-abortion articles that progress beyond name-calling and straw man arguments. Of course in any heated debate there will be a certain amount of robust back-and-forth, hurt feelings, bruised pride and so on. At some point, however, we have to get beyond the rough stuff and try and actually make some real arguments.

Do You Believe In Love At First Sight?

Sun, 12 Jul 2009 02:28 EST

Yes, I believe in love at first sight. I have experienced it. The problem is today that so many outside forces influence what we feel and make people skeptical about whether love at first sight really exists.

So many people who I feel were meant to be together are not because of the pressures put on them. I am one of these affected by just this kind of thing, as the lady who loves me was affected by people around her influencing the decisions that she made. Allowed to make her own decisions, her love would be expressed and in society many people avoid facing true love simply because of criticism.

We all know when we love, like or even dislike someone. We know deep in our spirit when someone is sent from God to be with us, and this is no matter what others say or think. It's ironic how friends affect our lives and how often they try to set us up with someone without love being in the picture, but mock us for real love.

We meet this real person that they suggest we make a relationship with and nothing happens. Even worse than that those people can end up being a bane to our lives if we allow them to become that. Broken relationships are made by people who turn out to be life controllers, dream killers and this effect in relationships is an everyday thing, whereas real love at first sight would be a better way to go.

I always tell friends or any-one, that old song from the seventies is true "Don't listen to your so called friends, they'll only break you up) Love at first site is wonderful, but it is only the beginning! In our times one must really work to keep a wonderful relationship going! It takes a lot of devotion to keep true love alive and so many jealous people that will try to put an end to someone Else's happiness.

Too many marry the wrong people, pass up a wonderful person, spend a miserable lifetime hurting and pretending and that's one reason I am still a bachelor and able to see things from a healthy perspective.I have personally seen and know of people that break up because they are not allowed to love. Family or supposed friends will find that weak spot in the relationship and try and block it from the start, though those who grasp love at first sight and work on it will be much happier in the long run.

There is some one out there for us all I FEEL! There are also stumbling blocks in the form of jealous, evil, controlling, no life, negative people out to destroy our relationships. honestly think, to any one reading this, is what i am saying....................

I Am Alone With My Loneliness

Fri, 10 Jul 2009 15:00 EST

Yesterday everything was just going on too well for me. I got up at leisure, helped my mother in the kitchen, read newspapers and catched up on bOLD AND THE bEAUTIFUL. Finished some of my pending jobs. Spoke to some of my friends on the fone.............new ones though. But still I could feel that something was amiss.......something which I could not figure out myself either. I wondered that since everything has been going on so well then why is that empty feeling surfacing again and again. I have noticed that even if all is going on so perfect around me and I even have my share of fun and frolic, still by the end of the day I feel gloomy. Why? What is it that I am missing so much. I have new friends, good work environment, my own family members, tv to watch, music to listen to. Maybe I am longing for that someone in my life to sweep me off my feet. To feel that closeness, the sense of assurance, or maybe just a simple hug is what I long for, from the loved ones in my life. I want to feel that I mean something to them. Even a single word or just a glance at me makes my day.

Anyways, not going off the track.......as I talked to this new friend about his loneliness and encouraging him, I was myself feeling so discouraged deep within that I just could not control my tears afterwards. I had to cry it out lest accumulating it inside. I have cocooned myself and radiate an aura of coldness so that no one sees what is going on within me. I am scared of anyone venturing inside and see the real me. Even my lonliness surprises me at times as if it is the only friend that I am left with. But atleast it is there with me to comfort me as I slowly drift away in the stillness of the night and wait for the dreams to ride me high...............

Posted on Sunday, July 11, 2009 1:57 AM