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Tue, 26 Feb 2008 04:34 EST

人生，是一篇做不完的選擇題，向前？向後？往左？往右？如果你已迷失方向，瞧瞧你心靈中的真、善、美吧，那，就是你的答案。

Discover the 90/10 Principle 發現了 90/10 的�

Sun, 10 Feb 2008 03:30 EST

Discover the 90/10 Principle. 發現了 90/10 的定律。

It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). 它將改變你的一生（最低限度，它將改變你對不同情況的反應）。

What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. 90/10 的定律是什麼？生命的 10% 是由你的際遇所組成，餘下的 90% 則由你的反應而決定。

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. 這意味著什麼？我們無法掌握那 10% 的際遇。我們無法阻止行程因汽車壞掉、航班誤點，甚或車子拋錨而延誤。

We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. 我們無法控制那 10% 的際遇，但餘下的 90% 則不然。你可以決定餘下的 90% 。

How? ……….By your reaction. 如何？ … 憑你的反應。 You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react. 你不能控制交通燈轉紅，但你能夠控制你的反應。別讓他人愚弄你，你能夠控制你的應。

Let's use an example. 讓我們舉個例子。

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. 你與你的家人吃早餐，你的女兒不小心把咖啡潑倒在你的襯衫上，這是你無法控制的情況。

What happens next will be determined by how you react. 下一步將如何則由你的反應而定。

You curse. 你開始責罵。

You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup tears. After too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs you find your daughter has been too busy and change your shirt. Back downstairs, crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. 你狠狠地臭罵女兒一頓，令她陷於痛苦之中。然後你又把怨氣發洩在太太身上，責難她把咖啡放在桌邊。接踵而來的是一場短暫的罵戰。你生氣地上樓更換你的襯衫。你下樓，然後發現你的女兒正哭著吃早餐並趕著回校。結果，她錯過了巴士。

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. 你的太太趕著上班，你匆忙開車把女兒送回學校。因為你已經遲到了，你以時速四十英里在一條限速三十英里上的道路前進。

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. continues, 你付了六十元道路罰款，終於抵達學校，並已遲到十五分鐘。你的女兒沒有跟你道別已跑進學校。你回到公司，已是九時二十分了，這時你竟然發現──你忘了帶公事包。這是非常糟糕的一天，而你感到你的運氣每況越下，你開始渴望回家。

When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. 當你下班回家，你感到你與太太及女兒的關係上出現微小裂痕。

Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning. 為什麼？ … 一切皆由你早上的反應而起。

Why did you have a bad day? 為何你會有如此糟糕的一天？

A) Did the coffee cause it? Ａ）是咖啡所造成的嗎？

B) Did your daughter cause it? Ｂ）是你的女兒所造成的嗎？

C) Did the policeman cause it? Ｃ）是警察所造成的嗎？

D) Did you cause it? Ｄ）是你所造成的嗎？

The answer is “D". 答案是Ｄ。

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. 你無法控制女兒打翻咖啡一事，但你在緊接那五秒內的反應讓霉運開始發生。

Here is what could have and should have happened. 以下是你改寫命運的結局。

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush honey, you just need upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to the bus. She turns and look through the window and see your child getting on You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss waves. comments on how good the day you are having. 咖啡翻倒在你身上，你的女兒幾乎要哭了，但你溫柔地說：「親愛的，這並不算什麼但你下次得小心一點了。」你拿起毛巾便上樓去。在你更衣完畢並拿起你的公你下樓去，望出窗外，你看到你的孩子正在上巴士。她回頭並向你揮手。你早了五分回到公司，並親切地與你的同事打招呼。你的上司亦對你新的一天給予正面的評價。

Notice the difference? 看到兩者的分別嗎？

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. 兩個不同的情景，由同一個開首所引起。但結局完全兩樣。

Why? 為什麼？

Because of how you REACTED. 皆因你的反應而起。

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. 你或許真的無法掌控 10% 的際遇，但剩 90% 則可以由你的反應而定。

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something attack roll off like water on glass. You negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the don't have to let the negative comment affect you! 以下有一些實踐 90/10 定律的方法。如有人說起你的是非，千萬別當一塊「海綿」，讓那些攻擊性的說話像水在玻璃上一般的流走。別讓那些負面評價纏繞著你！

React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. 適當的回應能夠使你的生活免受破壞。一個錯誤的反應能夠使你失去朋友、生氣、甚或被壓力壓得喘不過氣來。

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? 如果車子拋錨了，你會如何感想？你會生氣嗎？你會否猛擊車上的鐵鍊？我的一個朋友就把鐵鍊弄下來！你會怒罵嗎？你的血壓是否急速上升？你會否嘗試去踫擊他們？

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? 誰會在意你上班遲到了十秒？為何讓車子破壞你的駕駛過程？

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. 記著 90/10 的定律，別在意。

You are told you lost your job. 你被通知說你被辭退了。

Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time another job. into finding 你為何失眠與憤怒 ? 事情總是發生了。不如用你憂心的力量及時間去找尋新工作吧！

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. 航班延誤了，而它將影響你一整天的行程。為何將你的怒氣發洩在服務員的身上？她並不能阻止事情發生。

Why get stressed out? It Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. will just make things worse. 如利用你的時間學習，或認識旁邊的乘客。不要憤怒，它將令你的一天變的更糟。

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. 現在，你懂得了 90/10 的定律。實踐它，你將會發現它的驚人效果。嘗試實行它，你將不會有任何損失。 90/10 的定律非常神奇，而只有很少數的人懂得運用它。

The result? 結果呢？

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. 超過百萬人沈溺在痛苦、嘗試、問題與心傷之中。我們必須理解並實踐 90/10 的定律。

It CAN change your life!!! 它將改變你的一生。

Enjoy…. 願與各位互勉之!

對真心朋友的態度

Sat, 26 Jan 2008 03:27 EST

阿拉伯傳說中有兩個朋友在沙漠中旅行，
在旅途中的某點他們吵架了，
一個還給了另外一個一記耳光。
被打的覺得受辱，一言不語，在沙子上寫下：
"今天我的好朋友打了我一巴掌。"

There is an Arabic legend, in which two friends are walking in the desert.
They quarrel on the way, and one of them slaps the other on the face. The
slapped feels humiliated, speechless, and writes on the sand: 'my good friend
slapped me on the face today.'

他們繼續往前走。直到到了沃野，他們就決定停下。
被打巴掌的那位差點淹死，幸好被朋友救起來了。
被救起後，他拿了一把小劍在石頭上刻了：
"今天我的好朋友救了我一命。"

They keep walking on the sand until they reach a swamp, and they decide to
stop for a while. The slapped is nearly drowned, and is saved by the friend.
He then picks up a dragger and carves on a stone: 'my good friend saved my
life today.'

一旁好奇的朋友問說：
為什麼我打了你以後，你要寫在沙子上，
而現在要刻在石頭上呢？

The friend sees this and asks with curiosity, 'Why do you write on the sand
when I hit you, and now you carve on the stone?'

另個笑笑的回答說：
當被一個朋友傷害時，
要寫在易忘的地方，
風會負責抹去它；
相反的如果被幫助，
我們要把它刻在心裡的深處，那裡任何風都不能抹滅它。

The other answers with a smile: 'When our friend hurts us, we should write
it down in a place where it can be easily forgotten. The wind will ripe it
out. On the contrary, if we get help, we should carve it deep in our hearts,
where the strongest wind cannot erase it.'

朋友的相處傷害往往是無心的，幫助卻是真心的，
忘記那些無心的傷害；銘記那些對你真心幫助，
你會發現這世上你有很多真心的朋友...

Wounds among friends are usually made unintentionally, but helps are given
from the heart. If we forget about the wounds made carelessly, and engrave
the sincere helps, you'll find that you've got a lot of true friends ..

朋友呀！當你看到這裡，你感受到什麼？
在日常生活中，就算最要好的朋友也會有磨擦，
我們也許因這些磨擦而分開。
但每當夜闌人靜時，我們望向星空，總會看到過去的美好回憶。
不知為何，一些鎖碎的回憶，卻為我寂寞的心靈帶來無限的震撼！
就是這感覺，令我更明白你對我的重要！
在此，我希望你能更珍惜你的朋友。

My friends, how do you feel when you read up to this? Even the best friends
have frictions in daily life, and those frictions will make us part
sometimes. But whenever we look up to the starry sky in a silent night, we'll
see the past and pleasant memories. I don't know why, but it's those trivial
memories that trigger the strongest vibrations in my deepest heart! It is
that feeling that makes me realize how important you're to me! It's here,
that I wish you can treasure your friends.

Please have good care for your good friend.
請珍惜你身邊的好朋友！

男人KTV

Wed, 16 Jan 2008 22:59 EST

好無聊地在網上閒逛，找到這首歌。我覺得歌詞比廣東話版本還好，雖然都是寫一些大男人的心情，但在隱喻中更有味道。在普通話版本中的主角，在一大堆人中仍要苦忍心中的痛，比在廣東話版本中的主角一個人將自己困在痛苦中，更為悲哀、可憐。

男人始終喜歡將心事放在心中，不喜歡和人傾談。只有在自以為很不經意地的流露出來，真是一種可憐的舉動!!

聖誕快樂, Merry Chirstmas & Happy New Year!!

Tue, 25 Dec 2007 22:58 EST

Wish you all have a very happy holiday, and be healthy in the coming years.

...............

One more question, who can tell me which brand of watch is the most famous in Belgium?

(Chinese name is prefer)

Thank You!

新的開始

Thu, 13 Dec 2007 11:39 EST

明天將會有新的開始!

我今天終於將手上的工作交了給另一個同事跟進, 而我自己明天就要四處跑找case。

雖然以前都是這樣子, 但有八個月沒有四處跑動, 心情總有些...................

不過努力吧!
明天會更好!