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helenakreçš„ä¸»é http://hk.zorpia.com/helenakre Tue, 22 Dec 2009 22:55 EST Tue, 22 Dec 2009 22:55 EST Zorpia.com HELLO MY DEAR FRIENDSâ€¦ http://hk.zorpia.com/helenakre/journal/1866622 ITâ€™S BEEN A LONG LONG TIMEâ€¦I KNOW ! TOO MANY THINGS HAPPENED DURING THESE MONTHS OF MY SILENCE.. IF I WANTED TO DESCRIBE IN A FEW WORDS THIS YEAR.. THEN I WOULD SAY IT WAS A YEAR OF ILLNESS, DOCTORS AND HOSPITALS.. Iâ€™M PRAYING THAT THE NEW YEAR WILL BE BETTER FOR ME, MY FAMILY AND FOR MY LOVED ONESâ€¦ AND FOR THE WHOLE WORLD, TOO! UNFORTUNATELY, AT THE END OF NOV, MY MOTHER IN LAW PASSED AWAY, AT THE AGE OF 90â€¦ I WISH WE ALL LIVE WELL AND REACH HER YEARS. HEALTH IS THE GREATEST GIFT OF ALL.. AND AS SHE WAS SAYINGâ€¦ â€œMY HEALTH IS MY WEALTHâ€. I WANTED TO THANK YOU ALL AND EACH ONE OF YOU FOR YOUR THOUGHTS AND COMMENTS. I GIVE YOU MY WARMEST WISHES FOR â€œA MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEARâ€â€¦ Personal http://hk.zorpia.com/helenakre/journal/1866622 Tue, 23 Dec 2008 19:15 EST Be Good To Yourself Therapy http://hk.zorpia.com/helenakre/journal/1767403 <address>(Author unknown)</address> <address></address> <address>Trust yourself. You know what you want and need.</address> <address> Put yourself first. You can't be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself.</address> <address> Let your feelings be known. They are important.</address> <address> Express your opinions. It's good to hear yourself talk.</address> <address> Value your thinking. You do it well. If you don't value it, no one else will.</address> <address> Take the time and space you need.. Even if other people are wanting something from you.</address> <address> When you need something, don't talk yourself out of it. Even if you can't have it, it's OK to need.</address> <address> When you are scared, let someone know. Isolating yourself when you're scared makes it worse.</address> <address> When you feel like running away, let yourself feel the scare. Think about what you fear will happen and decide what you need to do.</address> <address> When you're angry, let yourself feel the anger. Decide what you want to do; just feel it, express it, or take some action.</address> <address> When you're sad, think about what would be comforting. When you're hurt, tell the person who hurt you. Keeping it inside makes it grow.</address> <address> When you have work to do and you don't want to do it, decide what really needs to be done and what can wait.</address> <address> When you want something from someone else, ask. You'll be okay if they say no. Asking is being true to yourself.</address> <address> When you need help, ask. Trust people to say no if they don't want to give.</address> <address> When people turn you down, it usually has to do with them, and not with you. Ask someone else for what you need.</address> <address> When you feel alone, know there are people who want to be with you. Fantasize what it would be like to be with each of them. Decide if you want to make that happen.</address> <address> When you feel anxious, let yourself know that in your head. You've moved into the future to something scary your body has gotten up the energy for it. Come back to the present.</address> <address> When you want to say something loving to someone, go ahead. Expressing your feeling is not a commitment.</address> <address> When someone yells at you, physically support yourself by relaxing into your chair or putting your feet firmly on the floor. Remember to breathe. Think about the message they are trying to get across to you.</address> <address> When you're harassing yourself, stop. You do it when you need something. Figure out what you need and get it.</address> <address> When everything seems wrong, you are overwhelmed and need some comforting. </address> <address>Ask for it. Afterwards, you can think about what you need to do.</address> <address> When you want to talk to someone new and are scared, breathe. Don't start rehearsing, just plunge in. If it doesn't go well, you can stop.</address> <address> If you're doing something you don't like to do, (such as smoking or overeating), Stop. Think about what you really want. If you're stuck and can't think clearly, talk out loud to someone.</address> <address> When you can't think straight, Stop thinking. Feel.</address> <address> When you're in need of love, reach out. There are people who love you.</address> <address> When you're confused, it's usually because you think you should do one thing and you want to do another. Dialogue with yourself or present both sides to a friend.</address> <address> When you feel harried, slow down. Deliberately slow your breathing, your speech, and your movements.</address> <address> When you have tears, cry. When you feel like crying and it's not a safe place to cry, acknowledge your pain and promise yourself a good cry later. Keep your promise.</address> <address> When everything seems gray, look for color.</address> <address> If one of these rules seems wrong for you, talk about it with someone.. </address>Then, rewrite it so it fits you. Personal http://hk.zorpia.com/helenakre/journal/1767403 Mon, 21 Jan 2008 15:42 EST The Awakening http://hk.zorpia.com/helenakre/journal/1765174 <address>The Awakening</address> <address>- The Moment of Clarity â€“</address> <address>By Denise M. â€œSonnyâ€ Carroll</address> <address></address> <address> A time comes in your life when you finally get it . . . when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out â€“ ENOUGH!</address> <address></address> <address> Enough of fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.</address> <address></address> <address> This is your awakening . . .</address> <address></address> <address>You realize itâ€™s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change â€¦ or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon.</address> <address></address> <address>You come to terms with the fact that you are neither Prince Charming nor Cinderella and that in the real world there arenâ€™t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of â€œhappily ever afterâ€ must begin with you â€¦ and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.</address> <address></address> <address>You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are â€¦ and thatâ€™s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions. And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself â€¦ and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.</address> <address></address> <address>You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didnâ€™t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.</address> <address></address> <address> You learn that people donâ€™t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that itâ€™s not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself â€¦ and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.</address> <address></address> <address>You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties â€¦ and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.</address> <address></address> <address> You realize that much of they way you view yourself, and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. And you begin to sift through all the junk youâ€™ve picked up from the garbage dump of others about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you should weigh, what you should wear, what you should do for a living, how much money you should make, what you should drive, how and where you should live, who you should marry, the importance of having and raising children, and what you owe your parents, family, and friends.</address> <address></address> <address> You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.</address> <address></address> <address> You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values youâ€™ve outgrown ... and in the process you learn to go with your instincts.</address> <address></address> <address> You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. And that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a â€œconsumerâ€ looking for your next fix.</address> <address></address> <address>You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.</address> <address></address> <address> You learn that you donâ€™t know everything, and itâ€™s not your job to save the world and that you canâ€™t teach a pig to sing.</address> <address></address> <address> You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.</address> <address></address> <address>You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.</address> <address></address> <address> Then you learn about LOVE. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away.</address> <address></address> <address> You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be.</address> <address></address> <address> You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. And you learn that alone does not mean lonely.</address> <address></address> <address> You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK â€¦ and that it is your right to want things and to ask for the things you want â€¦ and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.</address> <address></address> <address>You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you wonâ€™t settle for less. And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise.</address> <address></address> <address>You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.</address> <address></address> <address> You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believe you deserve â€¦ and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.</address> <address></address> <address> You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline, and perseverance.</address> <address></address> <address>You also learn that no one can do it all alone â€¦ and that itâ€™s OK to risk asking for help.</address> <address></address> <address>You learn the only thing you must truly fear is the greatest robber baron of all: FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms. And you learn to fight for you life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.</address> <address></address> <address> You learn that life isnâ€™t always fair, you donâ€™t always get what you what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions you learn not to personalize things.</address> <address></address> <address> You learn that God isnâ€™t punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. Itâ€™s just life happening.</address> <address></address> <address>And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state â€“ the EGO.</address> <address>You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.</address> <address></address> <address>You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls. </address> <address></address> <address> You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.</address> <address></address> <address> Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself. You make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heartâ€™s desire. And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.</address> <address></address> <address> Finally, with courage in your heart and God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can. </address> Miscellaneous http://hk.zorpia.com/helenakre/journal/1765174 Mon, 14 Jan 2008 10:42 EST