cheating husband

Sigh...men...problems.

yes as long you have relationship with men there's bound to be problems

so true.

not true the problem comes from both parties.

Im recently divorced cos I caught my husband cheating with somebody from his past. His past girlfriend. And she's older than me. I hate it!

must be devastating. Why do men do such thing? lust I suppose and in the end they lose everything, family, (wife and sometime children) if the wife has the custody.
I suppose if my husband still love me I may take him back.. on conditions of course.

then give me ur man

try to forgive .. and if you cant then divorce.. no point in staying in the relationship if you cant forgive and move on...

I thought so.... easier said than done, cos I have 3 children from the marriage and still love him (we had a wonderful marriage). BUT I can't forget and forgive.

you dont need to forget, and you'll never be able to forget so dont even try, instead try to forgive, everyone makes mistakes, and as you mentioned there are children involved, try a forgiveness prayer i have here.... and give it more than a week .. say it until long after the hurt goes away...

I forgive you ____his name___ for anything and everything that you have ever done and I wish you happiness, peace, prosperity, love, success and everything that you wish for, with all my love from the bottom of my heart.

and say this for yourself too, and anyone else that you feel has harmed you.. it will do wonders for how you feel about life in general :)

peace .. and good luck :)

Thanks for your advice and prayer.... I have try to forgive him.. I am still maintaining a cordial relationship with him for the sake of the children, however my temper flared up at the thought of him fucking around at every tiny winny reminder of the affair.

yeah and it will for a while, these things are not easy to get over, and some never do, and thats ok too, but if you can you'll find your a much better person for it, and he may become a much better person for your forgiveness too

good luck hon .. peace and God be with you

You sound like a very forgiving person. I have to scrap hard to find that in me....Have you ever been cheated before?

yes i have

I think if I m not married I will not asked this question.. I would just leave him..but with the children a bit tough....I hope you're over it??

for the most part i think i'm over it, there are times i question some things, but i figure that's paranoia, and i've come to accept if it's going to happen its going to happen, nothing i can do will change that, and i think it's best for my son if i work on me first and getting over it and making the best of what i've got...

Yes.. but are you still keeping the relationship going or just cut it off??...I think I am in my paranoia stage where I can't trust him to move on...or get on with the relationship.. don't want to be hurt again.

we are doing well, we get along great, and i honestly think he will never make any mistakes again :)

Yes.. we are also getting along fine.. however, that doesn't stop me from getting upset whenever the reminder of the affair crops up...how do you manage to keep your cool then...?

i dont find myself loosing my cool anymore.. but i used to say a quick prayer "God grant me the serenity to accept the things i can not change, courage to change the things i can, and wisdom to know the difference"

Dear Shadowed....great.. prayer. thanks a lot.

your welcome, i hope your pain ends soon for you and you'll over come this obstacle

peace love and light to you

Please forgive him, if he is not making the same mistake everyday. I'm sick of these people divorcing everyday, as if marriage is some child's play. s**t, every marriage is meant to last forever! Sit with him, and talk about it. You'll make your effort to forget, and he will make his effort to behave like a true man.

Please forgive him, if he is not making the same mistake everyday. I'm sick of these people divorcing everyday, as if marriage is some child's play. Every marriage is meant to last forever! Sit with him, and talk about it. You'll make your effort to forget, and he will make his effort to behave like a true man.

good if you can do that i.e. forgive and forget... the things is you can control yr actions but your feelings or emotion

Please just try to do the best for your family.

You can't just forget. Once that vase has been dropped, you can glue the pieces back together, you might do a good job,.. but you will always see the cracks reminding you of what happened.

true, but give the vase away to a friend, and you'll still remember... ... ie, if she's got kids, she's never going to forget, it's best to forgive :)

didn't say forgiving was a bad thing,.. just saying that forgetting is close to impossible

ahh :)

;)

yeah that's the thing about memories, you can suppress them for a while, seemingly forgetting them, but they always return, they never stay gone forever...

tell me about it. It's the main reason why I prefer to be single ;)

funny you give that analogy.. that's exactly how I feel and wrote a poem about it.

I am like...

Date 22.02.2007


I am like a wounded dog

whose leg had been cut

I am like a wounded bird

Whose wings cannot fly



I am like a tree

with its twigs torn away

Its leaves fallings to earth

Scattering at the base




I am like a broken crystal

Being put back together

Though it may look whole again

It will never be the same.

@mar

Ask yourself: WHY did he cheat, and what were the circumstances ? If you believe it was a one -off thing, and your both still in love, then forgive him *er.. after he treats you to a dream w/end and or gos drastic with the plastic in the Mall !* lol

Or a big diamond ring and a trip to Maldives... how I wish... hahaha.. well we were apart for quite sometime... and men with their '2nd' head that rule them.

y not, u know yr worth it ! lol

emmmm... How I wish... may be I'try to make it happen...but at 48.. you are not as attractive as before.. so not much bargaining power...

dont be daft, your a WOMAN ! Multi tasking/skills lol

You believe that?... vengence and seems to rule the day sometime, that's make it harder to get what I want.

It is smarter to understand why he did.

And..... don't think that he may have done only for fun or sex.

When a man or a woman starts to meet somebody else after the marriage, it may be because they are disappointed in their wife/husband.

Well he he said that he was lonely as we were living apart due to work commitment... llike 14 hrs on commercial flight so see each other every half a year... is that forgiveable?

If you still love him, you should.

But, Mar, I really think that you can have troubles again if you two stay so far for long time.

If he must stay far from home for months, better you all move there.
( Even better would be if he could avoid to go far, but I have no idea if he can do or not ).

yes.. I was in London he was in Malaysia... and now he is in Bangkok and I am in Malaysia... may be I shd engage a PI to monitor him know of any good PI..hehehe

Ha! Ha!

No, I don't think it is much about checking him. The problem is that if the people marry and they don't stay together... many things can happen.
Better you stay with him if you care that he doesn't find other women.

( There is also the risk that he may chose somebody else instead of you, if he really feels lonely, maybe somebody ready to follow him anywhere he goes )

hi... he is working in ayuthaya... for I don't know how long more. Asked him to work in malaysia he refused so I think there no hope for us being together anymore..

YOU ARE NOT SURE OF WHAT YOU WANT TO DO -- BUT MY ADVISE IS DONT DIVORCE AS IF YOUR AGE IS REAL 48 THEN CONTINUE WITH HIM AND FORGIVE HIM

HE IS YOUR MAN FOR LIFE NOW

forgive yes... forget..... may be not... the marriage life would not be the same... I m really 48

mmm--I dont know then-do what you think is best

are you married?

I just trying to find out the opinion of those who are or were in my circumstances before...

forgive him if u still love him...ppl make mistake no1 is perfect

Yes quite true.. pople make mistake... and no one is perfect... though .. I consider myself or rather my marriage before almost perfect.. hehe...emmmmm

nothing is perfect in this world ppl make mistake....if u think u cant be with him cos he cheat guess just move on...but think back u guys hv kids and if u love him give him another chance

If you can't trust him then there seems there is little to base your relationship on. If you're staying with him just for the kids or because you don't know if you can move on (as in age wise) then that is wrong. Plenty of people get on with their lives, meet new people and split up without much hassle, maybe talk through the options? If you only see him every so many months then if you do split it won't make much difference to how often he sees the kids will it? Maybe divorce is a bit of a rash decision since the suddeness of this, maybe try to take a break from the relationship and reflect on how you really feel about it all.

trust once betrayed is difficult to regain

Definitely.

we dont have divorce here..so maybe, go on with my life and make myself beautiful and interesting more.

thanks for yr opinion... .. actually I don't think that is the problem...making myself beautiful or interesting..... I could find someone if I want to I think

I have never been married,so this is a tough one.....
But I did have a cheating b/f, which had he told me sooner, he would of been out sooner.
I broke up with the b/f, kicked him out, sent him on his way.
Since then I have not been sure of men.....
With my parents getting divorced a number of years back, I am not sure that I will be married.
So, from my experience, I would not stand for it.....
Kids are not in my future either.....
We all make choices, some I made years ago......
Some, I'm still making.....

I suppose we all make choices all the time .based on our circumstances and background, cultural and religion. I would still want to be married even if my parents are divorced. However, I still think that men are non-monogamous by nature. Had it been just a bf, I would kick him out without much thought.

It's tough to know what to do these days, with my folks divorcing and a cheating b/f, it just makes me wonder is all. Marriage is not something I'm shooting for right now. I'm not sure if I will.....

i believe that once a person cheated will cheat again... but if u love him, don't know... it's hard... but my first option will be to end it cause this issue will haunt u...

once a cheater always a cheater.... that's why it is hard for me to accept him back. that warning beacon ...

All are prone to make mistakes ^_^

i guess try to give him a chance,if you wont do it probably you can regreat it, but of course it hurts what he done.and if he still is sneaking around so you do what you feel in your heart..my best luck.

thanks.....

A poem I wrote a few days ago regarding this matter

Forgiveness
Date: 16/07/07

The white paper
is not white anymore
the fate is written
long before

However
Have no despair
When prayer is said
And love and compassion
is the companion of the day
The world can look bright
The sun shine after the rain
and the white paper
when wipe clean
is white again
.... a clean slate

Take each day
with positive attitude
your love life
will soon be good

Cast the negative thoughts
the unkind words
Let the love spread
instead of hatred
For this world is just temporary
to err is human, to forgive... divine
but just don't repeat
the mistake again.

@mar

thats cute!!

thanks

I am a man. I cannot really answer your question as I am unlikely to have a husband. However, I think your question is really asking for advice whether to divorce him or forgive.

I would start by looking at yourself and ask why did the man cheat. Also, you dont say how often he cheated, was it a once only affair, was it a regular affair?

Dont forget that women are the most ruthless of all hunter/killers. If a woman sets her sights on a man, even another woman's then she will get him one way or another.

reason...we were living apart due to work commitment when it happen.... as far as i know only with that slu*, over a two year period.

divorce is not the option
or not immediate option

the first thing u should do in my opinion is communicate...

you need to let him know you are worried about it might happen again or upset etc... however u are actually feeling about the issue urself...

then also, relationships are about trials... this is a trial for the pair of you...

next i believe u should trust what he says... he is more likely to do what he says he will (ie not break promise) if u trust him fully and he knows it...

alot of people tend to cheat etc because they feel untrusted and therefore feel they may as well... not from personal experience (i not cheat, i wouldnt be with girl if i was going cheat) but i have had many a friend that has experienced these things and i am a very perceptive person :P i see why it happens...

yes very perceptive of you.... but trust once betrayed.. it is difficult to rebuild

i agree... it would be difficult...

but true love is worth it...

Emmm..... even at this age,... it is difficult to say what is true love...sacrifice.... forgiveness... that you are meant for each other for life??? if that is so why does he cheat on me????

i am not trying to excuse his behaviour in any way at all...
however... i do believe that if you think you love him
he may just think the same about you...

now the cheating issue.. i cannot understand why anyone would cheat in the first place... so my only real comment for that is maybe he was intoxiacted to the point he did not realise he was doing wrong? or not with you?

i myself believe in if you feel like cheating, just be honest and break it off...

i have not experienced it from either side the cheating aspect so i can only relate what i have seen with good friends that have cheated on their loved ones...

i have one such that recently broke it off with the one he loved and was going to marry... because he had cheated on her twice (she had forgiven him though) but he felt guilty because the only reason he did it was he was intoxicated... now he broke it off coz he cannot be sure he will not get intoxicated again... and doesnt want to hurt this girl anymore :( sad story coz they perfect together

no he was not intoxicated.. were were living apart due to work commitment.. and I trusted him

Forgive him and give him a chance/

ohh my God u just found out he had fist wife??? kidding ! that will be the worse for me

strange as it may sound but many a women or men do the same and once stuck or caught are the once who bare the brunt .iether which way u look at it one needs to view it from the eye of the pl involved ,are or were they in love ?were they close enought to cheat ?i guess its very situational and there is nothing called morality anyways .

when I found I asked him details.. and he confesses that even when we were engaged... he cheated on me... a one night stand kind of thg.. but to me that was not so bad before marriage.. before the marriage vows..so it does not really matter now.
I think they were in love!!

You know everyone can give you advice on what to do, but only you have to live with the decision. It is good to get other people's imput and suggestions, but in the end you have to be the one to look in your heart and find how you truly feel. Of course now you are angry. You have to deal with the feelings of betrayal. What you have to figure out is how are you going to feel about him in a month? You didn't stop loving him because of what he did. If you still love him and you can find a way for the two of you to work out this then that is the best for your children. If however, you can't forgive him and it will be constant battle between the two of you then do your children a favor and leave. It isn't good for them to be seeing the two people they love the most in the world fighting each other. I wish you the very best of luck in making such a tough choice. Good luck.... :)

Thanks.... I think I have forgiven him.... but that doesn't mean I will accept him back or that I can forget easily.... I don't think of revenge like fooling around myself cos' I don't see no point in that. I just want what is best for me and my children.

You know that is exactly what you need to think about. What is best for you and your children. Keep your happiness and theirs first. You will make the right decision once you really think about it. good luck. All my best wishes and keep smiling. Life is too short to let other people bring you down.... :)

thanks...I have my ups and downs in life.. this the down parts.. and I am sure I will have my ups again soon.. I do believe that there's a good reason why things happened the way they did

The everything happens for a reason theory... ? I actually do believe in that too. I had a really terrible childhood, but I believe that it made me the person I am today and I am a very good person. Maybe this is your test to see how you will overcome your problems. Be strong... :)

Thanks for your words of encouragement... sometime there is too many cynical people around who think they know it all. TQ

You forgive him might be really hard to do because you are hurting so take your time and think you wont throw away your marriage over a mistake we all slip and we all make mistakes and sadly sometimes we cant fight sin of the flesh as we all convince ourself we could when we are not in that position .

yes.. I understand what you mean...he said so too... however.. time will tell if I could forgive him completely... it is very hard at the moment cos when I see his face... I remember what he did to me

Yes i know its hard right now and you should take as long as you want just don't get in fights over it because it wont end thing it would just make things worse

yes you are right.. such wisdon at a young age of 23... I see it that way too however when you are the one involved, our judgement is always clouded by emotions. TQ

I have been with my BF for over 10 years and we have had the most break up and make ups and we both have made mistakes that have hurt each other because of the fights that came after and its never good until we made this rule that no matter how mad we get with each other we never go to sleep on the same bed angry at each other it wont work at all if we are going to be mad we cant sleep on the same bed and that was the best thing because we learn to work through our problems and talk about how we feel get as angry as you wanted to but learn your own level of control get things out always ...we are not married like you guys but for as long as we have been together and all we have been through it feels like we are so i have been there and i do understand a lot ....

you mean your bf have cheated on you a no of times, you fights and you still can accept him?

My bf have not cheated on me and if he was to it would be with sports or playing with somebody's child since he loves kids
anyways in any good relationship there is going to be fights and if there is not that can only mean there is that much conversation between the both of you

it depnds what your fight is all about. There's certain thing I can giveand take but not a cheater.

Sometimes people cheat it happens you can either forgive them or forget them but when you really love them the choice is harder but you make it base on what you feel in your heart if you listen to it and not what you hear in your head , things sometimes just happen and until its done you would never really understand what it means to almost lose what you have or some other lesson you need to learn i don't approve of cheating but you have to remember a mistake is once more than once is something else

yeah...now I wait and see...not rushing into desicions

yes you are right.. such wisdom at a young age of 23... I see it that way too however when you are the one involved, our judgement is always clouded by emotions. TQ

hi sexy i m always with u sexy

men cheat. i dont know. that's a sad fact

You have been cheated before?

everyone ard me do that. men~

stop thinking about it and get even,i'll will sacrifice myself to get your revenge oke?
LOL

dump his ass!!!!

maybe he has changed, talk go to a marriage help thingy.

done that.. but its not much help...I'd rather talk to my girl friends

emmm thanks for your positive input... I am a bit sceptical though

For the sake of the children, and my happiness, I am giving him a second chance.. however I am transfering the house to my name and the children and putting a spy(PI) on him as not to be a fool the second time.

It's been more than a year since I discovered. It's not as painful now but I am still hurting whenever I remember and the anger still has not subside fully.. someone mention reciprocate... but no... that's not the best option. Couldn't do it. I guess I just haveto divorce him and move on.....

i would cheat on him too . i like revanges , so anyway we would be like even lol

think of a good revenge for me..except killing him!!!

yeah killing him its not a good idea . i dont know , spend all his money on shoping , or cheat on him , record ur self while having sex with that guy and send a tape to him lol

hahaha... spend his money ... yes... good idea. that's what I ve been trying to do... except I earn more than him.record myself cheating on him.. well I can't bring myself to do that. I lied to hm that Ive slept with someone... that was enough for him to go bonker and sending me nasty textes. (we live apart) and that went on for a week until I told him the truth because I cant stand his verbal abuses....I'll think of something that will hurt him as much as he had hurt me....(planning a revenge is so sweet hahaha)

haha u go girl . by the way i dont know what was on his mind when he cheated on you because u definatly look billions time hotter than that girl that he cheated on you with . i think ur too good for him anyway

hahaha.. you know what he said... don't just blame him, blame the girl as well... if all men are to be blame... what about the women they cheated with... well in his case he is the married one, with marriage vow, with family... children as responsibility and 24 years older than her.. when it happen. The girl had no other commitment.. he was trying his luck with the girl and she responded and he took advantage...again again and again..

did the girl know that he was married and has a family?

Yes!!yes !! and yet... it doesn't matter to her.. at the height of the affair, she wants to marry him

ur husband is a big asshole , i would just fu*k him up really bad so he can remember me all of his life

he is a big asshole. dishonest (when it comes to this and hyprocrit) presents himself as a god abiding person that no one know his true identity.. if only the other people around him knew... unbelievable.

I will not tolerate being cheated on. Or abused. So he'd be out the window. I'm sorry that he did this to you. Are you still together? I hope you will be able to get on with your life and be happy :) xx

yes.. ifeel the same way...we not together but becos of the children we tolerate each other... I am still too angry to move on.

Well it's very sad indeed to hear that you're "staying together for the kids". People claim that you must sacrifice your happiness for your children, because it'll simply break them apart to watch you go through a divorce. But they don't think about the children noticing that their parents can't stand the sight of each other. It's not really my place to say...but if i was ever put in that situation, i think that i'd divorce my husband to make myself and the children happy.
But the decision is completely up to you. I hope you will be happy and that your children will be too. :) xXx

my children is having major exam this year...anyway don't want to upset them too much

hi guys thanks for all your comments. Talking about it does bring some benefit to me. I don't feel so pent up.. I have a venue to release my anger. I've not been to a marriage counsellor even if I do, he won't go (being a stuck up male with a huge ego) so I see not point for that. I did go the lady counsellor (not a marriage counsellor) who is very much younger than me (and never been married) I don't think she gave me good advice. Your view is appreciated since I could at least see the situation from a different perspective. And some of you had also gone through the same problem in your life (either you are the one who cheat or your spouse). Whenever I feel overwhelm by the situation.. I just read some of your comments and that help. Thanks and keep it coming. Appreciate it ver much.

talk to him nicely and mention how children would be affected if he continues //
cheers //

thanks.. i guess before I do that I have to decide whether he is worth fighting for..

well that's absolutely terrible, u know i'm married and i could never see myself doing that to my wife. i married her because i love her and made a vow to only want her and no one else. if that guy really loved u then he would never have done what he has done.
but i guess in your situation it's very difficult to leave or divorce he because u obviously love him so much. so i won't give u a answer on what u should do because that is your decision to make i will just say be very careful u don't get hurt more and trust is the most important part of a relationship in my opinion!

good on you.. hope it will go on for your entire married life. x yr finger. I ve already get the divorce proceeding going.

unlucky u
(assuming u were fair to him)
condolences with u:)

hahaha.... never look at other men since I have been married... it that being fair? ... family is always first priority

thats nice to listen madam:)
but u know girls these days!
specially around here in the west:P

that's right... when there's so many unattached men, why do they go for the married one unless the man claim to be single which is not the case here, since I have met her once before they started the affair!! He introduced us.

yea:@
shes to blame as well........

yes,, its taes two to tango... and I blame myself too, for trusting him (and men) 100%. I thought being highly educated and him being pious.. it is beyond us for that to happen

ok:)

rite

all in all its ur choice but when i found out my man was cheating on me, i confronted him. he cried the fake tears and said he was sorry, he said i was truely the only woman in his life. i was hurt so badly i wanted 2 believe him but i stuck with my instincts & pretended 2 forgive him 2 see what he would do. wouldn't u know he never stopped cheating-he was seeing 4 other women!!!! i found the evidence!!! i confronted the women he was STILL cheating on me with. i was in his emails & read what was said 2 them- how he cant live without each of them & each was the only one 4 him-go figure!!! u figure it out from there. peace be with u.

were you married and have kids? I think if a man cheated on you, they hurt you, and it just meant that they don;t really love you. Cos if they do, then they wouldnt want to hurt you right? Nobody is forced to cheat... or anybody hold a gun to their head for them to have to cheat.. it is their choice to do so, so they will have to bear the consequences of their action.

:(, i am really sorry to hear this. If he did this once what is stopping him from doing this again?. He violated your trust, that might not ever be repaired. Well you could go to marriage counseling, if you choose to work things out. If you do choose to divorce him i don't think anyone can blame you for it.

I know. It difficult to trust again once the trust is betrayed... everyday you will be wondering what he is up to... checing on his ph call, messages and his pocet or wallet for the telltale receipt etc... I don't fancy living in that condition

Yeah i dont wish that kind of life on anyone.

I will probably distrust him and give him the benefit of the doubt. If he does it again and I find out, he will be out the door in a heartbeat lolz

talk to the girl. face to face who confessed in front of him... so there is no doubt to give benefit to

If the guy is a cheating man, chances are he may not be with the same gal. He might be philandering around with a whole bunch of them of another one. At least this is what comes to mind when I hear of a cheating man.

if you're still hurt about it then kick the s*i* out of him. You're a respected, young beautiful woman.
Don't let this motha fuckah bring you down!

it lasted 4 years..it wasnt a fling then...men oh men!...listen to your heart sweetie..if you still love him you have to forgive him and forget what he did...goodluck.. :)

Firstly i would kick his fcuking nuts in then try and reason to see if there was any chance of trust in the future.Good Luck

hahaha....who can be certain of the future?

very true

he broke his wedding vows...that's all i have to say...it shouldn't have happened in the first place, but with it going on that long...it's just worse. get rid of him! he doesn't love you enough...otherwise, he wouldn't have done it in the first place.
things like that shouldn't happen, and they shouldn't be forgiven.

i try to forgive him so that i could go on with my life.. but i cant forget. that's for sure so that's why I cant carry on my life with him cause the sight of him reminds me how he had hurt me

yea...i know, that's why it's best not to have him around any more. because when he's not around, you won't see him, and it'll be easier to forget what he did.

once is bad enough, but for 4 yrs. no excuse, come on now, im sure u can find someone much better who will treat u the way u should be treated.....there r plenty of fish in the sea.. she sounds like a raspy b---- for screwing someone elses man..we call them dirties here....

i do believe in forgiveness, but thats just too extreme for me...and the kids, well, they dont need both parents in the house to know they are loved every day and will be taken care of..some people might say what im saying is crazy, but i just couldnt imagine someones thing inside of me knowing its been inside someone else, even once, yuck!!!!

yup... i agree....

you can try and forget, but trust me you wont, and its hard to forgive. he took one of the most precious things away from u and that was ur trust, that will be very hard for u to get back and now all the other truley nice guys are going to have prove themselves even harder to you , and they shouldnt just because of ur husband.

im not trying to discourage u, but everyone says give him a chance, i believe in chances and once they know ur willing to do that, well, a 4 yr. habbit is hard to break..dont let any man, i dont care who it is, EVER bring u down..u r just going to have to go with ur heart and know whats best for u and your kids.and one of the females on here said look him in the eyes and ask him and u will see his reaction, well, sounds like he was pretty good at his reactions for 4 yrs. im not saying dont trust men, cuz men are not all the same, just keep ur mind and heart open for other options..

yup.... I have to decide what i am gonna do next cos I believe he want to work it out but I am just too drained and traumatic from the experience

ask him directly..c how's his reaction ...if he is telling the truth ..give him a chance..else....
time is the best medicine.......be strong!!!

when people cheat, they lied to cover up most of the time. when you find out then you reflect back on all the lies that he had been telling you. Even if he is telling the truth now... do you think you can be sure that he is telling the truth?

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well dear i will not recommend u to get divorce but still its all upto your life see marriage is not one's grandmother home's where one can come out or come in and again go away noo i think its a insitute where one shall enter only when he or she is 100% sure,i think the fruit of Spirt shall be in it like love,tolerance patience,forgiveness(very imp).i think its a time that you can him that u r a way better women then wat he deserve or expect shall him the compassion and love of yours.i think biggest battle in worl can be won by love nd rember its not a battle or a revange taking.actually its a time where one can prove himself as a lover,then rather a man or woman you can prove yourself as a lover
only thing which shall be important for uu at this time is love love and only love
soo do handle it with love
God bless you

well I think if I manage to forget than life with him will be better.. but then do I really want him in mylife. ? a big question mark

welll thts kool i thiss will really help u . wat i m getting i think u r gettin the right attitude actually i can feel the progess about nd soonly every thing would be
fine the only thing which i want to say you that grll your MAN needs you soo do give him wat he needs bye

cheat back! and enjoy it! lol lol...

divorce and possible murder, it depends on the exact situation in which he did it.

Divorce yes.. murder..nooooo.. no man is worth being jail for life.. Exact situation... I was away overseas... and he was left alone. we only see each other every 4-5 months.. and the distance is like 12 hours of normal commercial flight.

Of course you shouldn't do something that will get you thrown in prison the rest of your life, that is why you have to do it in a way that you don't get caught, like making it look like an accident. In my honest opinion when two people are in a relationship, they swear to be with only each other and to forsake all others, you can not stray from that for any reason and if you do it is a betrayal of trust, something that can not be forgiven. If someone does it their partner has every right to punish them in any way they see fit and if that involves murder then so be it. Of course this is all just my opinion, you do whatever you feel you have to do.

yes... sorry if I reply twice. You have very strong opinion on that... emmmm I am scared to be on the wrong side with you... I am punishing him by ignoring him and something saying nasty things to him.. But that's as far as I go... I would like some idea of psychological torture that I could o to him ha ha ha.

You sound much nicer than me in this situation. In any case I hope things work out for you, I know things like this are never easy.

Yes.. it isn't easy....life have to carry on.. but I can't make up my mind on what to do with him.... divorce or.. jsut forgive and carry on. Thanks anyway

divorce yes... murder nooooooo.. no man is worth going to jail for. Exact situation, we were apart and meeting about 5-6 month interval. and the distance is about 12 - 14 hrs of commercial flight..

slap him across the face and kick him in the stomach and make him spit up blood...and then forgive him

idk, thats what my friend did. lol :D

You know I made him promise not to contact her again for whatever reasons but he did......... that's when I bashed him with a plastic chair. No satisfaction though...

well if hes still contacting her then i wouldn't trust him at all.

yes.. I couldn't and shouldn't trust him.

you can do better. you are gorgeous. you deserve better.

At the moment, I am still deciding and keeping my options open..Thanks.

Cheating husband?

your 48 and you sit on the internet asking people...

If my husband cheated on me i wouldnt turn to zorpia and post a COMMENTS sections on it.

Sorry :)

Well.. it takes all sort of people in ZOrpia... just because you are 18 or 48.. it doesn't mean you have all the answer, do you?

come cheat with me .... lol jokin :P

kill him and kill her lover !

kill everyone stands in your way..

go in blind frenzy slaughter all >:(

HELL YEAH !

Haha.. would you do that for me....hehehe

sure..

just find me a shotgun..
or flamethrower..

If someone cheats on you ... throw him OUT!
Ali

It is not as simple as that... after many years of happy marriage and the children to consider as well

==in ur sincerely dream..==

waks.. uhm i guess forgive himm
but...

yehh do some cheat also hahaa... before forgive him..

If you cheat also then you are on the same level as him... I look down on people who cheat. At the moment I have lost my respect for him.

mmm... I don't really know, it's complicate. In my case I wouldn't forgive it and also it'd come to my mind all the time. I can't understand how the person who spend many experiences, almost all life with you, also says that he loves you,then he betray you. My ex boyfriend did to me and it hurts me I don't want to know what happen when there are children in the midle! be strong!***

kill him :D kidding

Try to figure out why this happened in the first place
if it was my problem then try to solve it
it is was his then get divorced

We were living apart when it happen.. the problem is I trusted him 100%.. men can't be trusted